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Are You Gaslighting Your Kids? (Even When You Don’t Mean To)

"Is everything okay with you and Dad?" Your eight-year-old asks it at bedtime, in that careful voice kids use when they already suspect the answer. You've been short with each other for two weeks. The tension has been thick enough to walk through.

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The Two Essentials

Can I be honest with you? I don’t have it all figured out. Let me just put that out there, right off the top. What I do know has been shaped by my personal experience sitting in the classroom and then in sessions with hundreds of couples.
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Why Communication Fails – and It’s Probably Not What You Think

You’ve probably heard it before: “We just need to communicate better.” And sure, that might be true. But here’s the thing that most couples miss—and honestly, most communication experts miss it too. The real problem isn’t that you don’t know how to talk to each other. The real problem is that when you’re dysregulated, your nervous system won’t let you.
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Micro-Progressions

You’re probably already aware of the term “micro-aggressions” that is commonly used to describe the multiple minor offensive and hurtful messages that people within a minority community experience. It is death by a thousand cuts that may not always be noticed immediately, but is has a compounding effect.
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The Connection vs Protection Dilemma

Have you ever been stuck in a dilemma of choice? We call it the “double bind,” meaning that either choice comes with certain problems. Relationships often offer us this double bind of either maintaining connection or protection. When we our attachment becomes threatened, we are forced to make a choice.
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Perceptions of Communication Must Be Transforming

In face to face conversations, we are at a distinct disadvantage. We see what is in front of us. What we don’t see though could actually be holding us back from some of the most important information in a conversation. Perhaps the flow of the following example conversation is familiar to you.
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What every relationship needs to thrive

I’ve been married for over 29 years and I’m a Psychotherapist that has worked with hundreds of couples. I’ve seen some stuff and I know it takes effort to maintain healthy relationships. I also know that relationships that work include a few essential ingredients.

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